I know what you’re thinking.
‘Not another patronising post from some head in the clouds blogger telling me how to enjoy my kids.’
Looking at the title of this post, I get how you might think that… However, I can’t tell you enough how much I used to HATE it when people told me to #cherisheverymoment just after Lawson was born. I was a frickin’ zombie!! I was in no way cherishing my moments in the few months after Lawson’s birth. If I’m honest, I was just trying to make it through each day without having an emotional meltdown!
So, with this context in mind, and emotional meltdowns a part of the past (kind of…), I wanted to write a practical post about how I now make the most of my time with Lawson and really try to ‘cherish’ it (can we just vito that word?!)
My first tip is to take MORE photos. Now, many people won’t agree with me here and might say that being on your phone when you’re with your kid is quite the opposite of ‘cherishing the moment’. But I think documenting your time with your family is one of the best ways to soak in the good times. It means that when you’re having a crappy day, you have something to look back on to remind you of what you have to be grateful for. I am a MASSIVE advocate of being IN photos with your children too. I wish I would have taken more photos during my zombie phase – I honestly don’t remember very much of it and wish I had pictures to look back on, even if in the ones I did take I look like I’ve been punched in the face.
(This is Lawson’s FIRST EVER photo – about 55 minutes after he was born!)
My second tip would be to keep a memory box. Gotta come clean with you here, Lawson’s memory box is more of a memory pile at the moment. Haven’t got round to buying a physical box, but it’s on my to-do list! So in Lawson’s memory pile I have kept things like the first babygrow he wore, his diary from hospital, the first hat he wore etc. It’s honestly one of my favourite things to do (especially when we have people over… I’m just such a fun person!) to get this out and look at how teeny tiny he once was. Like I said, I have hardly any memories of that time!
Make the most of night feeds. I’m aware this suggestion might not be for everyone! But especially as Lawson has got older and a LOT more wriggly, lovely still cuddles during the day are kind of a thing of the past. The only time where I get those magical still moments just me and him are in his night feeds. I always give him his bottle, and then just sit and hold him for 10 extra minutes. I don’t do it every night, if I’m well tired then I’ll just go straight back to bed, but most nights, I really like to mark the moment by just having 10 minutes holding my boy.
Create moments to cherish. I think it’s hard to really ‘cherish the moment’ if you’re just sitting at home watching YouTube videos (guilty). I’m not saying we have to book a family holiday to Disney World or anything, but even something such as a simple family walk can just help us press the pause button on life, especially because mama life can get SO busy!
Last one, and my personal favourite. Look after YOURSELF. I am overwhelmed every single day by how hard it is to find time to relax and take care of myself. It’s just so hard to make the time for it. But we must. And here’s why. Eventually, if we keep giving and giving to our little ones without taking a little time to recharge, our batteries are going to run out, and we’re gonna start feeling the pressure. Not very easy to ‘cherish every moment’ when you’re in that frame of mind. I’ve been there! I try and take the time once a week just to chill out, whether that’s having a bath, doing some yoga, watching a movie, I make the time for me, because then I know I’m going to be more present when I’m with Lawson.
I hope these little tips were helpful in some way, I’m still learning to pause more often and think about how lucky I am. It really can be so difficult. Let me know in the comments, what do you do to pause and mark moments? I’d love to know! Give me some tips!!