Today’s post is quite a personal one, but one that I’d like to air out and get into the open. I mean, what else is blogging for, really?

When I was pregnant, I remember reading a plethora of articles about motherhood, and repeatedly came across some version of this phrase:

“You will find yourself again.”

So many of these posts warned about the fact that you will ‘lose yourself’ when you become a mother. Whilst there is an element of truth in that, it always came with quite a negative connotation I think, like losing yourself to motherhood is a bad thing.

If I’m honest, I’m a bit lost.

Let me explain what I mean here. Motherhood has changed me. Drastically, actually. I’m not overly fond of all the ways that I have changed, for example, I feel very conscious that I’ve become slightly more boring than I was pre-Lawson; my social skills have taken an absolute dive because I’m constantly distracted by thoughts of ‘is Lawson OK?’ ‘Is he going to kick off?’ ‘Is he tired?’ ‘Is he hungry?’ The list could go on. Overall I’m very aware that things that were once important to me no longer hold much significance. I have a major case of tunnel vision. And at the end of that tunnel, is Lawson.

I am living in a new mummy bubble, and yes, you could say I have lost myself. But here’s the plot twist. I like it. I don’t actually want to find myself again. I am happy being lost in motherhood. Motherhood has enriched my life more than I ever thought possible, to the point where I get overwhelmed on quite a regular basis just at the sheer love I feel for this tiny human.

Do I want to get my spontaneity back and be less boring as a person? Of course. Do I want to improve my social skills to a point where I don’t relate EVERY CONVERSATION back to either Lawson, pregnancy or pushing a baby out? Absolutely. But I feel like this will happen in time. For now, motherhood is absolute bliss. I have never experienced magic like it.

There is, however, a little dark cloud that hovers over my mummy bubble, and that dark cloud is called TIME. Always at the forefront of my mind is the fact that time is a cruel, cruel thing, and that my Lawson bubble will one day burst. For example, I will have to return to work; he will grow up and become more independent and eventually, he will become too cool for mummy. I worry that if I allow myself to become completely wrapped up in myself as a mother, I might lose who I am as a wife, a daughter, a friend. And I don’t really know how to stop this from happening.

I’m interested to hear from other mothers here. Did you experience the mummy bubble? Did you ever get out? Did you want to get out?

So – on ‘finding yourself again’ ladies, answers on a postcard please.

(Or less figuratively, in the comment box below.)


February 11, 2017 at 12:51 am

I am totally in the mummy bubble still, 18 months on! It’s hard to get out of and I think that it will probably just happen naturally, you know when they’re too old and cool for us! Ha! Xx

February 27, 2017 at 8:56 pm

Haha arghhh Carlie I’m dreading that day so much!! Glad it’s not just me though – loving my mummy bubble!! xx

Lisa Caroline Dixon
February 11, 2017 at 12:54 pm

A beautiful read, Hayley. Looking back, I don’t quite remember the Mummy Bubble. How awful is that? I currently find myself in a different kind of bubble. Perhaps the reason why I, too, have started blogging. My advice to all young mummy’s, new mummy’s, mummy’s with little ones. Cherish the early days, when you crave peace and quiet, a full nights sleep and a hot cup of coffee. Because, sadly, one day they do grow up, they become teenagers. Cruel, sometimes with their words. Unintentionally, I’m sure. A lonely bubble…

Try not to let the future play on your mind too much. Live in the now, with your gorgeous little baby boy. Right now, he needs you. He wants you.

Lisa. x

February 27, 2017 at 8:57 pm

Aww Lisa, such lovely advice. I definitely try to cherish the time I’m in now and try my hardest not to focus too much on the future! It really robs you of the present doesn’t it? Hope you’re doing well lovely xx


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